Effectiveness

8
Aug

The simplest way to getting more done, and getting done well

I recently found myself agreeing with a client as she complained of not having enough time each day to complete her workload and attend her personal needs. The problem with agreeing with the problem is that coaches like me are hired to offer solutions, not sympathy, however in this case I had no real solution that I could offer from

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24
Aug

Defining Success and Failure

Just as it seems there can be no absolute meaning to life other than what we individually give to it, there can be no absolute degree of success or failure carved for each of us in stone. I have been intrigued to hear from a multi-millionaire client who still regularly works late into the night as he attempts to achieve

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11
Aug

Enough Already, Just Quit Doing Stress

Recently in a workshop for a group of senior managers and execs, all was going well in my opening introduction until I stated that there is no such thing as psychological stress, only our interpretation of it. Heads turned to look at each other in the group and three hands raised amongst the mutters and looks of contempt for my

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27
Apr

Can you change your life, by reframing it?

Any event or interaction that we experience is only ever an interpretation of reality. What is actually going on outside of us, in our environment, will never be known in an objective way. In every split second of experience we each create meaning based upon our own values, beliefs, and personal/cultural knowledge. Just as Shakespeare pointed out in Hamlet, ‘

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22
Apr

ARE YOU ON THE COURT OR IN THE STANDS?

‘What do you mean you don’t know what peep show is? Everyone knows it!’ ‘Not me’, I replied. I haven’t had a TV that is connected to a channel in, uh… like, fourteen years or more. The peep show fan looked at me and shook his head in confusion or disdain or some mix of both. You may press the

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19
Apr

Dreaming of order

I always know when my life is getting too crazy because I start to think about minimising my wardrobe. In a frenzy of desire, I can get a little too ‘minimalist’ even for the most die hard of simplifiers. As it is, I’m pretty much down to two pairs of my favorite Patagonia Jeans, six or so organic T-shirts, one

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14
Feb

The easier way to create habits

It’s sometimes possible to create new habits through sheer force of will, even though more often than not our stronger internal urges override any will-powered behaviours we attempt to set ourselves. Have you considered what willpower is? Conscious control of our impulses, urges and compulsions. The problem with exerting our will or conscious control is that our unconscious mind, the

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