Blog

8
Aug

The simplest way to getting more done, and getting done well

I recently found myself agreeing with a client as she complained of not having enough time each day to complete her workload and attend her personal needs. The problem with agreeing with the problem is that coaches like me are hired to offer solutions, not sympathy, however in this case I had no real solution that I could offer from

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29
Sep

Resist complacency (and gravity)

My arm hurts.  It’s a historically familiar ache around where the bicep meets the elbow joint. I’m not surprised by the pain, even though, I last felt it some five or six years ago. In truth, I welcome it, as a reminder of a really important strategy for living. The pain is due to my recent re-entry into rock climbing

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29
Aug

the more you know the less you need

‘The more you know the less you need.’ Aboriginal saying   As our world becomes ever more complex and demanding by the day, it is clear that many people struggle with keeping on top of things. Attention-grabbing events, devices and to-do lists are so far beyond what our primitive neurology evolved to be able to handle that we now live in

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24
Aug

Defining Success and Failure

Just as it seems there can be no absolute meaning to life other than what we individually give to it, there can be no absolute degree of success or failure carved for each of us in stone. I have been intrigued to hear from a multi-millionaire client who still regularly works late into the night as he attempts to achieve

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16
Aug

Yes or Yes? A solution to rejection

In our social and business lives we’re often likely to get knock backs from time to time. Unhelpfully, avoiding rejection may become a pattern that limits us and what we could otherwise offer to the world. __________ Some of us are likely to remember a youthful moment in which we plucked up courage to ask a pretty young thing to dance or

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11
Aug

Enough Already, Just Quit Doing Stress

Recently in a workshop for a group of senior managers and execs, all was going well in my opening introduction until I stated that there is no such thing as psychological stress, only our interpretation of it. Heads turned to look at each other in the group and three hands raised amongst the mutters and looks of contempt for my

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24
Jul

How climbing changed my life ( Interview with Mike)

29
Jun

The limitation of beliefs

In coaching and change work, we often come up against some very odd, un-useful and limiting beliefs. Personally I regard all beliefs as limiting, even the so called ‘good ones’. It had to happen at some point, I just wasn’t expecting it at my son’s tender age of three years old. ‘Daddy’, he said, looking at me with his mum’s big blue eyes, ‘is

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27
Apr

Can you change your life, by reframing it?

Any event or interaction that we experience is only ever an interpretation of reality. What is actually going on outside of us, in our environment, will never be known in an objective way. In every split second of experience we each create meaning based upon our own values, beliefs, and personal/cultural knowledge. Just as Shakespeare pointed out in Hamlet, ‘

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5
Apr

Resourceful Parenting for a Stress-Free Life

This article first appeared in mybaba.com

17
Mar

Stop Chasing Happiness

As is sometimes the case when a person first hears what I do for a living, the lady sat next to me at a dinner party began to declare her various reasons (excuses) for not having achieved what she’d expected from life. Though at fifty she was far from old, there was a certain resignation in her assumptions that her

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14
Feb

The easier way to create habits

It’s sometimes possible to create new habits through sheer force of will, even though more often than not our stronger internal urges override any will-powered behaviours we attempt to set ourselves. Have you considered what willpower is? Conscious control of our impulses, urges and compulsions. The problem with exerting our will or conscious control is that our unconscious mind, the

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29
Jan

Everything you want is already inside you

‘I’m glad it’s over’, said my friend Rod on our skype call this morning. I laughed and then pointed out that he is the one who criticises me (in the way that very close friends can do) for being indifferent to the holiday season and all of its excesses. I responded, ‘I thought you loved this time of year? It’s

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1
Jan

Alternatives to bullshit resolutions

It’s New Year’s Eve as I write and I’m sat on the grass in my back yard wearing only a pair of shorts.  One of the benefits of living in Los Angeles during a historically long drought is that it’s reliably hot and sunny almost every day. I love living in this city as much as my previous favourite hometown

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21
Dec

Dial A Coach ( from ‘the skinny on skinny ebook)

19
Dec

STOP TAKING YOURSELF SO SERIOUSLY

It’s 11pm and I’ve been stuck to my laptop all day except for a brief lunch and dinner with my family.  I’m in the final hours of re-launching a business ( www.theskinnyproject.com) and deadlines and sign-offs are the priority of the last ten days. I was about to move on to the next element of work and then I heard

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3
Dec

Self Esteem ( from the Skinny on Skinny ebook)

18
Nov

Blame it on the Mosquito

I just saw an entertaining post on my Facebook news feed. It pictures a sage old monk and the words, “ It is only when a Mosquito lands on your testicles that you realize, there is always a way to solve problems without violence”. And you can wave the mosquito off of your crown jewels and slap it in the

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15
Oct

Playing Truant

“People say nothing is impossible, but I do nothing every day.” A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh I sat from 6.45am to 9am this morning reading the brilliant, ‘ The Idle Parent’ by Tom Hodgkinson. Putting into non-action the very content I was reading, I let my two year old son kick his football at the fridge, pour water all over the kitchen floor and

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1
Sep

Make it achievable ( from the skinny on skinny ebook)