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8
Aug

The simplest way to getting more done, and getting done well

I recently found myself agreeing with a client as she complained of not having enough time each day to complete her workload and attend her personal needs. The problem with agreeing with the problem is that coaches like me are hired to offer solutions, not sympathy, however in this case I had no real solution that I could offer from

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29
Sep

Resist complacency (and gravity)

My arm hurts.  It’s a historically familiar ache around where the bicep meets the elbow joint. I’m not surprised by the pain, even though, I last felt it some five or six years ago. In truth, I welcome it, as a reminder of a really important strategy for living. The pain is due to my recent re-entry into rock climbing

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29
Aug

the more you know the less you need

‘The more you know the less you need.’ Aboriginal saying   As our world becomes ever more complex and demanding by the day, it is clear that many people struggle with keeping on top of things. Attention-grabbing events, devices and to-do lists are so far beyond what our primitive neurology evolved to be able to handle that we now live in

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24
Aug

Defining Success and Failure

Just as it seems there can be no absolute meaning to life other than what we individually give to it, there can be no absolute degree of success or failure carved for each of us in stone. I have been intrigued to hear from a multi-millionaire client who still regularly works late into the night as he attempts to achieve

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16
Aug

Yes or Yes? A solution to rejection

In our social and business lives we’re often likely to get knock backs from time to time. Unhelpfully, avoiding rejection may become a pattern that limits us and what we could otherwise offer to the world. __________ Some of us are likely to remember a youthful moment in which we plucked up courage to ask a pretty young thing to dance or

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11
Aug

Enough Already, Just Quit Doing Stress

Recently in a workshop for a group of senior managers and execs, all was going well in my opening introduction until I stated that there is no such thing as psychological stress, only our interpretation of it. Heads turned to look at each other in the group and three hands raised amongst the mutters and looks of contempt for my

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24
Jul

How climbing changed my life ( Interview with Mike)

29
Jun

The limitation of beliefs

In coaching and change work, we often come up against some very odd, un-useful and limiting beliefs. Personally I regard all beliefs as limiting, even the so called ‘good ones’. It had to happen at some point, I just wasn’t expecting it at my son’s tender age of three years old. ‘Daddy’, he said, looking at me with his mum’s big blue eyes, ‘is

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27
Apr

Can you change your life, by reframing it?

Any event or interaction that we experience is only ever an interpretation of reality. What is actually going on outside of us, in our environment, will never be known in an objective way. In every split second of experience we each create meaning based upon our own values, beliefs, and personal/cultural knowledge. Just as Shakespeare pointed out in Hamlet, ‘

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22
Apr

ARE YOU ON THE COURT OR IN THE STANDS?

‘What do you mean you don’t know what peep show is? Everyone knows it!’ ‘Not me’, I replied. I haven’t had a TV that is connected to a channel in, uh… like, fourteen years or more. The peep show fan looked at me and shook his head in confusion or disdain or some mix of both. You may press the

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19
Apr

Dreaming of order

I always know when my life is getting too crazy because I start to think about minimising my wardrobe. In a frenzy of desire, I can get a little too ‘minimalist’ even for the most die hard of simplifiers. As it is, I’m pretty much down to two pairs of my favorite Patagonia Jeans, six or so organic T-shirts, one

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5
Apr

Resourceful Parenting for a Stress-Free Life

This article first appeared in mybaba.com

4
Apr

Get into your game

Some years ago, I was in Dubai, working for a wealthy oil client. Whilst with him at lunch, my bank’s financial adviser called to arrange a meeting with me regarding some of my recently transferred earnings. I agreed a time to meet upon my return. The Oil-man laughed – actually scoffed/choked out loud at me when I put the phone

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17
Mar

Stop Chasing Happiness

As is sometimes the case when a person first hears what I do for a living, the lady sat next to me at a dinner party began to declare her various reasons (excuses) for not having achieved what she’d expected from life. Though at fifty she was far from old, there was a certain resignation in her assumptions that her

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15
Mar

Why I don’t use voicemail

I vaguely remember my first mobile phone, I think it was a Nokia that sat in my hand like a small brick. Prior to purchase of said brick I couldn’t see much point in being accessible at all times. However due to my itinerant lifestyle it was often impossible to get hold of me for work. This, after all, was

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14
Mar

Do you fear making mistakes?

Imagine… the sounds and facial expressions of those around you inspiring a feeling of support and encouragement as you ready yourself. This is it… a moment for which your entire being has learned, developed and prepared. The tingle of anticipation, excitement and readiness signal your muscles into action. You rise, gaze forward, take one monumental step ahead and … topple

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5
Mar

Choosing wisely for best results

Every day we’re required to make a series of choices. The quality and potential consequence of those choices is what creates difference in our lives. Today you could choose to eat garbage, processed foods; or to deliver work that is knowingly under par; or speak unkindly about others behind their back; or watch TV instead of working on your project;

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2
Mar

Make it about them.

For twenty years I’ve worked for myself. In my various business ventures I’ve created a small number of successes and a larger number of failures. The failures were mostly because I chased money rather than a meaningful way to provide value to the world. My own version of success has come consistently when I stop thinking about money and instead

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1
Mar

Resist complacency (and gravity)

My arm hurts. It’s a historically familiar ache around where the bicep meets the elbow joint. I’m not surprised by the pain, even though I last felt it some five or six years ago. In truth, I welcome it, as a reminder of a really important strategy for living. The pain is due to my recent re-entry into rock climbing

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28
Feb

How do you decide behind closed doors?

Johnson & Johnson has been linked to a women’s death by cancer, allegedly caused by the company’s Talc based baby powder. There are some 1200 other people lining up to make similar claims. It’s also alleged that J&J knew about the health hazards from this product a long time ago and did nothing about it. I was especially keen to

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14
Feb

The easier way to create habits

It’s sometimes possible to create new habits through sheer force of will, even though more often than not our stronger internal urges override any will-powered behaviours we attempt to set ourselves. Have you considered what willpower is? Conscious control of our impulses, urges and compulsions. The problem with exerting our will or conscious control is that our unconscious mind, the

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29
Jan

Everything you want is already inside you

‘I’m glad it’s over’, said my friend Rod on our skype call this morning. I laughed and then pointed out that he is the one who criticises me (in the way that very close friends can do) for being indifferent to the holiday season and all of its excesses. I responded, ‘I thought you loved this time of year? It’s

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1
Jan

Alternatives to bullshit resolutions

It’s New Year’s Eve as I write and I’m sat on the grass in my back yard wearing only a pair of shorts.  One of the benefits of living in Los Angeles during a historically long drought is that it’s reliably hot and sunny almost every day. I love living in this city as much as my previous favourite hometown

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21
Dec

Dial A Coach ( from ‘the skinny on skinny ebook)